How We Came To Be
Prior to December 2014, my company, website and blog existed as Cantadora LLC.
My clients included women, those in the role of caregiver for a loved one, and those desiring to connect with a stillness practice. As a practicing Buddhist and longtime meditator I brought those practices of loving kindness and compassion into my heart centered Coaching and Mentoring practice. I helped my clients to identify the things that were important to them, and live from their joy.
On a personal level my life was dedicated to my family who are the loves of my life, and my deep quest for answers to personal health challenges. I’d spent years of my life seeking an explanation for my sensory processing and tactile challenges, motor challenges, and anxiety.
I’d received any number of suggestions from healthcare providers about how I might address my symptoms, and just as many diagnoses that ranged from PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), to Depression, to an Anxiety Disorder. None of those diagnoses really accurately explained what I was feeling and experiencing. I knew they were missing something. In the fall of 2014 I started doing a health history from a genealogy perspective. Were there other members of my family who had, or were experiencing similar challenges? I was like Nancy Drew© searching our family tree for clues. It turned out there there were several people in our family tree who shared the same or similar challenges.
The door opened wide on my search when I spoke to a close family member and discovered that we had a family member on the autism spectrum. I had never considered exploring in that direction for an answer because of the Rain Man® stereotypes that had portrayed autism up to that point. I shifted my search looking for information about women on the autism spectrum and I saw myself immediately. I was stunned, and felt a mix of hope that I might finally have answers, and fear that yet again it would be a wrong turn.
On Thursday, December 4, 2014 just before 11AM, I received my diagnosis. 299.00 – Autism Spectrum Disorder – Mild, and my path and work shifted. Prior to 2013 my diagnosis was called Aspergers. In 2013 Aspergers was removed from the DSM in favor of ASD or Autism Spectrum Disorder.
After 53 years of not knowing, I knew, I’m on the autism spectrum. My doctor asked, “So how do you feel, hearing that diagnosis?”
I thought about it – stunned to finally have an answer, as Brad, my husband answered the doctors question, “Relief, we finally know after all of these years of searching”.
I eventually said, Thank you. Thank you for hearing me, for choosing to do the work that you do, working with adults on the autism spectrum. I processed my doctors question for quite some time, and to this day, it's a process of unfolding discovery.
I’ve come out the other side of a long and challenging journey. This is true for many on the autism spectrum, and maybe even more so when we don’t know we have autism and are not diagnosed until we are adults. Many girls and women on the spectrum are not diagnosed until later in their adults lives, such as I have been.
I understand myself as I never have, and my life, like a jumble of puzzle pieces is falling into place. My desire since my diagnosis now includes supporting others with this same process of discovery, whether that be for a diagnosis of autism, or some other health or life related challenge. Difficulties with our health can be stress filled times in our lives. HeartMath® tools and techniques can help.
My love for, and dedication to, the compassionate path of the mind and heart are what guides and informs my work as a HeartMath Coach and Mentor, and likewise in the other modalities that I bring to my clients.
My own personal experience with the benefits of being heart centered and mindful are what lead me to share with, and support, my clients in their own personal discovery and use of these tools. This compassionate path is what led me to form Compassion Arising LLC
“Picture heart intelligence as the flow of awareness, understanding and intuitive guidance we experience when the mind and emotions are brought into coherent alignment with the heart. This intelligence steps down the power of love from universal source into our life’s interactions in practical, approachable ways which inform us of a straighter path to our fulfillment.” – Doc Childre
Childre, Doc; Martin, Howard; Rozman, Deborah; McCraty, Rollin. Heart Intelligence: Connecting with the Intuitive Guidance of the Heart (Kindle Locations 215-218). Waterfront Press. Kindle Edition.
The American Institute of Stress cites that up to 90 percent of all health problems are related to stress. Chronic stress can lead to high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke, depression, and sleep disorders. I was a living example of health challenges related to stress and HeartMath, Meditation, and Mindfulness practices have been a great help to me in addressing and managing stress.
You can see the effects of stress in real time through the emWave ® Desktop, emWave2®, or Inner Balance for IOS; hardware/software programs from HeartMath®. Coherent, joyful thoughts and emotions (story) can recharge you, support clear thinking, productivity, and creativity. An incoherent emotion story-thought, one that is stressful, can deplete you, and result in inability to focus, decreased productivity, and exhaustion.
As we make the choice to shift our emotions, and take action on moving beyond what does not support or affirm our lives, we began to grow into something larger. We may find ourselves healing after a long illness. We may change jobs or relationships, or finally realize that what we have always wanted is right there in front of us.
"There’s a big pay-off from practicing heart coherence for even a few minutes. As we have said, being in a coherent state has a carryover effect.[ 6] This means that by spending a few minutes in a more heart coherent state before engaging in situations that are often stressful, such as before an important meeting or a challenging conversation with a client or co-worker, we are more likely to be able to sustain our inner balance and composure."
Childre, Doc; Martin, Howard; Rozman, Deborah; McCraty, Rollin. Heart Intelligence: Connecting with the Intuitive Guidance of the Heart (Kindle Locations 777-779). Waterfront Press. Kindle Edition.
What makes my heart sing is to help you find your answers. We all have circumstances, it’s what we do with those circumstances that create our life. I can think of no greater gift than helping you to make your heart sing, to help you align and connect with your hearts blueprint for this, your amazing life! Through the tools of HeartMath ®,Coaching and Mentoring, The HeartMath ® DeStress Workshop, and other Programs, I will Coach and Mentor you and together we will explore your hearts answers, with grace and compassion.
My interests and what I write about include autism, aspergers, depression, anxiety, advocacy, wellness, self care, meditation and mindfulness, women on the spectrum, spirituality, writing, creativity, decorating and nature. Oh, and there might be a thing or two about being a grandparent because we are first time grandparents in our family and tickled as can be about it!
I look forward to sharing and advocating here and in the world at large.
It is my honor to assist you on your journey.
With caring heart ~ Nellie
The clients I work with come from all over the world, and currently include the US, Canada, UK and Israel
I meet with clients and offer individual and group Coaching and Mentoring sessions in person, over the phone, via Skype, and email.
Compassion Arising LLC
Nellie P. Moore
River Falls, WI 54022
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